Self-Confidence

Self-Confidence helps you learn and enjoy life

All that a man achieves and all that he fails to achieve is the direct result of his own thoughts.                                                                                       — James AllenNatasha is a smiling confident woman.

Self-Confidence is about believing in yourself.

If you lack Confidence:

You have low self-esteem.
You feel helpless.
You’d like to reach your goals but don’t believe you have the ability to accomplish much.

Natasha is quite confident in her social skills but once lacked confidence in her ability to do well in college. She often laughed and said she’d have to get along on nothing but her good looks.

When friends offered encouragement, saying she could make good grades if she really worked at it, she agreed to give it a try.

Her friends helped her learn better study methods. Natasha went to the writing center and learned to write better papers. Each small success made her feel better about herself. Gradually, she became more determined to improve her study skills in many areas.

Now Natasha is making A’s and B’s and she enjoys learning. She has become a confident student.

You can have confidence in many different areas

Some people have a great deal of confidence in some areas and not in others. As you read these, evaluate the areas where you feel most confident and where you need to become more self-confident

1. You may have a great deal of  Social Confidence, making new friends easily, and feeling comfortable in many different situations.

2. You may be Confident of your athletic skills or your ability to play a musical instrument or sing.

3. You may be a confident student, feeling certain you will do well on tests and make good grades.

4.  You could be a confident public speaker. You might have confidence in you ability to speak your own or other languages.

5. You might have confidence in your writing skills, knowing that you are creative, that you organize ideas well, and that your grammar, spelling and punctuation will be correct.

6. You might have confidence on the job, knowing you have the necessary skills to succeed.

7. You might be a confident decision maker, considering alternatives and reasons and making a well-informed choice.

You should work to increase your confidence in the areas that are most important to you.

Are You A Confident Student?

If you are NOT a Confident Student, you might make excuses for your poor grades. How do you explain to yourself why you aren’t making good grades? Do you make comments like these?

  • This class is much too hard. I’ll never be able to understand this material.
  • I would really like to make good grades but I’ve never been a good student.
  • Even when I study, I always do poorly on tests.
  • I’m just not as smart as those other students.

A Confident Student would be more likely to say or think these statements.

  • This class is  difficult. It’s going to take a lot of work but I love a good challenge and I’m just as smart as most of the other students.
  • My grades aren’t as good as I would like, but I can change that.
  • I just need to read a book on writing better research papers and create a schedule so I start on papers three or four weeks early.
  • I also need to schedule more time for study early in the semester so I don’t need to cram for exams.
  • I know I can do it.

Somehow I can’t believe that there are any heights that can’t be scaled by a man who knows the secrets of making dreams come true. The special secret, it seems to me, can be summarized in four C’s. They are Curiosity, Confidence, Courage, and Constancy, and the greatest of all is Confidence. When you believe in a thing, believe in it all the way, implicitly and unquestionably.                                                                     —  Walt Disney

If you struggle with self-confidence, read   Seven Steps to Greater Confidence.

You might also go on to    Self-motivation      Determination and Willpower

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