Examine your Feelings and Emotions
If you are to know yourself, you should become more aware of your own feelings and emotions.
People with a greater certainty about their feelings are better pilots of their lives, having a surer sense of how they really feel about personal decisions from whom to marry to what job to take. –Peter Salovey and John Mayer, Emotional Intelligence, p. 189
Use your notebook again.
1. How do you feel, emotionally, most of the time? Are you generally cheerful and positive? Do you often get in a bad mood? Do you ever feel really discouraged or depressed?
2. What kinds of things cause your emotions to change? When you’re feeling great, what things can make you angry or upset? When you’re in a bad mood, what things or people can brighten your day?
3. What are some of your happiest memories?
4. What are some of your most painful memories?
5. What are you afraid of?
6. What memories are most vivid in your mind?
7. What things make you very emotional? Do they make you cry? Why do some experiences make you more emotional than others? (This isn’t an easy question.)
8. In the past month or two, what experiences have made you feel especially happy?
9. In the past month or two, what experiences have made you feel most peaceful?
10. In recent months, what has made you feel most proud?
11. In recent months, what has made you feel especially sad?
12. In the last few months what made you feel guilty?
13. In the last few months what has worried you the most?
14. In the last few months, what people or events have most upset you?
How do these emotions affect you?
1. Which emotions have the most effect on your behavior: In what way?
2. Which emotions have the greatest effects on the ways you relate to other people?
3. Which emotions have the greatest effects on the way you feel about yourself?
4. Which emotions most affect your study habits or how your learn?
How do you handle your emotions?
1. How well are you able to control your emotions?
2. Do you ever bottle them up your emotions until you explode?
3. What do you do when you are upset, when you are sad, lonely, afraid, or angry?
4. What do you think others do to control their emotions?
5. Are you satisfied with how you deal with your emotions? If not, then list the things you’d like to change.
6. State what you want to change in terms of goals. Then plan several steps toward reaching each goal.
Marshalling emotions in the service of a goal is essential for paying attention, for self motivation and mastery, and for creativity. Emotional Self Control, delaying gratification and stifling impulsiveness underlies accomplishment of every sort. — Peter Salovey and John Mayer Emotional Intelligence, p 189
To continue in Self Knowledge Consider your Values and Beliefs